Being Kind Vs. Being Nice- “No good deed goes unpunished.”
I have this thing….about being Nice vs. Being Kind
There is quite a bit of rhetoric going about these days about being Kind. Nice and kind are used interchangeably.
Energetically- they are entirely two separate words and actions.
When I speak of energy- I speak of the energy of intent of our thoughts, words and actions. Knowing this.. being intentful of thoughts and karma they produce is the key to using your Energy.
Let’s talk about the energy of the words -nice and kind:
Nice- is a word that implies a person, place or thing is pleasant, agreeable.
Kind- means of the family (Kin). To treat as your own with love. It is also used in reference to the two elements of the eucharist (wine and bread) . It is an ancient word referencing ‘natural order’. Kindness is on the scale of the Love Frequencies. It carries a special karma of spiritual growth when the word is applied correctly.
We have all heard the phrase “no good deed goes unpunished”?
Why is that so? Because the deed was being nice, not being kind. People confuse nice with kind.
Another analogy showing the difference between nice and kind:
Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day, Teach a man to fish and he will eat for a lifetime. The first is being nice- a short solution. Teaching is being kind- It takes time, effort, patience..love
I mentioned Karma earlier. How does nice vs kind relate to Karma?
– Karma is the flow of energy produced by a thought or action. Think of the infinity symbol. When something is done in love (and we must understand LOVE in terms of being KIND) it creates more love. When something is not done in Love or Kindness for the highest good) it creates a contracting negative karmic flow- we all feel the negative karma in selfishness, greed, hate, guilt, anger and fear.
Here is another modern day example of Nice vs Kind Karma. : I call it the The Car.
A parent gives their child a brand new shiny sports car for their sixteenth birthday. They may or may not have the financial means, however they want to give. They want to be nice to their child. There are all sorts of subconscious reasons parents want do this…to make up for being a non- available parent, social status, the child being a reflection of themselves (living vicariously), etc.
The child begins to believe he is entitled for more because he is so awesome. He doesn’t need to follow the natural order of laws including traffic laws. And then the phone call from police … Ma’am, Sir I regret to inform you, your child was involved a car accident.
And karma has returned. It was not the highest of good to GIVE that car because that child did not learn the important lessons of life he needed to learn – the givers of the car were being NICE.
To be Kind: The child needed to learn to work for his car. Spend long weekends making pizzas, mowing yards, etc to earn his place in this world. In doing so, the teenager would be much more careful with his earned car and obey the natural order – including street signs.
In discerning whether you are being nice or kind in a situation –
Ask yourself two questions:,
Are you doing something someone should and could be doing for themselves?
How can I kindly help this person? …For their highest good…
Sometimes doing nothing IS doing something.
For example- a family member can’t seem to find the time or inclination to get a driver’s license. At 18 years old relies on nice friends and family to take her places. In doing so all these nice drivers have allowed her to defer her fear of driving and relegated her to a continual state of begging and comprising and entitled free rides!.
Each time I am called for a ride I Kindly decline.– do nothing. And I offer to take her to get her driver’s license.
The most important part of the karma of kindness is being kind to yourself. Taking the brave step of seeing ourselves clearly- as other see us, claiming our own personal growth and working on our own stuff is being kind to those around us, ultimately making the world a better place.
As we travel through this beautiful life,
Being nice is wonderful- a smile, pleasant attitude, with eye contact with person at the checkout counter is all that is required to be nice.
When you are making choices with your using your energy to assist others, you now have the knowledge and the helpful tool in the form of the question: Am I being Nice or being Kind ?
Love and Light
Cynthia Ritchie
