Did you ever wonder what happens at a soul level when the ‘proverbial’ milk is spilled?
As children, teens and even as adults we encounter what I call the ‘spilled milk’ trauma.
Scenario: Parent(s) are busy, home from a stressed day at work, getting dinner on the table for kids who seem to be in the ‘way’. The parent doesn’t really want the kids to help because it will take time; but the child wants to help or least help themselves to a glass of milk.
Somewhere in the evening the child spills a glass of milk (proverbial- pick your analogy)
And then it happens, the glass falls, milk spills everywhere, splattering here and there and God forbid the glass breaks also.
Your tiny hands didn’t quite make the goal and with wonder you watch the effect of a falling milk and the amazing change from a captured fluid to a fluid released to another state of being of least resistance.
You instantly know something is wrong. The busy bustle of the household stops. A heavy blanket of anger spreads and hovers around you like a black shroud. Your parents stand above you, fists clenched, or a slam to the table- the energy of the kitchen has suddenly changed. Your body starts shaking, an inner knowing something terrible is happening… and it is terrible for your soul.
Then it starts- a sigh of anger and frustration or worse a yelling or even a beating.
“Dammit, I told you to get out of the kitchen- You always get in the way. Now I have a mess to clean up- look at that it went everywhere…”
You are not sure what to do. You stand glued to the floor- fear and an odd sensation of adrenaline you have never felt before radiates through your body. Tears well up and a inner tremble takes over your body. For the first time in your life your are experiencing the emotion of being a bad person.
The parents are admonishing you and in their own way trying to keep you safe from broken glass or making the situation worse.
And then you start to cry….. and in the whole mess of spilled milk and ugly words, more ugly words slice the air, “Want me to really give you something to cry about?” comes at you and you are jerked and spanked and sent to your room.
What the hell just happened? Tears uncontrollably fall, every muscle is twitching. A visceral, inconsolable cry releases into your new understanding that you are no longer unconditionally loved. Alone in your room, a torment of anguish captures and rips you from the Truth of who you are as a being and propels you into the life long human challenge of trying to find your way back to your soul- the Truth. The truth that outside of this human experience you are Pure Unconditional Love, that you are good and of the Divine.
Yet, here on the Earth challenge you can only see that you are no longer in the good graces of your family, your tribe.
The mess is cleaned up- like it was never there. You are instructed to sit at the table to eat dinner. Yet your body, ravaged by the emotions it has never felt before, still shakes. Your world has forever changed -the premise of what you thought it was to be loved has been turned upside down.
The parent’s- just trying to get through the motions of the day, pointedly say, “Eat”. And you eat your emotions, you stuff them down into a place so deep you don’t even know where to find them.
Every glance from a family member shadows as a disdainful memory of the ‘terrible’ thing you have done- your inadequacy as human being and family member. You cower, trying to reintegrate, doing anything to get back into the good graces of your family- your life line. You keep trying to figure out your crime- what you did wrong. So you do your best not to spill milk ever again. Yet somewhere else in time it happens again and you make a “mistake” in the eyes of your tribe and once again the wave of searing pain separates you from your soul again. And you begin to make space in your body and mind that you are defective, something you yourself should hate also.
As the years go by, you spend unconscious thought energy in your life trying to be part of the tribe again, with school peers, friends, family, co-workers, society. You follow the herd- you follow family patterns, try to fit in with peers so no one will know you are a defective person. Following the path society/the tribe lays before you is where you think you will find unconditional love- your place- or a place you will be accepted.
Spilled Milk traumas is an event in your life which tears you, fragments you from your divinely connected higher self/ soul from the unconditional Love of Oneness. Whether it is your first love break-up, fired from a job, shunned from a peer group or family- we all have events that tear our soul.
Hopefully one day, you say enough, or maybe there is an angel in your life who looks you in the eye and says somehow, someway- “You are enough”, “ you are amazing” and you begin the road back to healing. Not the tribal societal path, but your path, the path to Oneness.
I invite you to visit all the ‘events’ in your life where you experienced a soul tear. Start young and keep going. Keep a note card with you and write down each one and the details. You may even want to interview a witness for a different or corroborating point of view. Awareness is the first step to
healing. Often times people block memory of ‘events’, or the events are beyond comprehension, or they were babies. Regardless, the intent to heal unconscious ‘soul tears’ will be enough to clear the emotions to heal.
Remember when I said – you eat those emotions? Where does it go? Your body is a vessel for your soul spirit connection. Your organs do more than just process the physical elements for your body, they process your thoughts and emotions in equal measure. Your liver is this amazing organ that protects the rest of your essential organs from toxins and intense negative emotions. In order to protect your heart, it takes on the anguish, self-loathing and torment which separated your soul from Oneness so you could continue living in the Earth space to learn to use your Love energy; and all along the liver hopes you find your way back to clear and heal the space for Unconditional Love.
When you are ready, with the help of your guides and angels and your higher self, I invite you to an Energy healing session. With the awareness of the events and your intent to clear the negative emotions and heal the soul tears and fragments, we can begin the true work to finding the inner space of peace in your soul. In doing so, may the toxic emotions be released from your liver, so your body can move forward to heal the physical ailments related to the toxic emotions and have the energy to heal the environmental toxins it has been holding onto to protect the rest of you.
Another aspect of Spilled Milk Traumas (SMT’s) is being on the ‘other’ side of the event- the person facilitating the fragmenting for another person. It can be just as toxic to have guilt for saying the harsh words and doing the violent actions in the fragmenting. We all play roles in learning to use our energy and helping others to learn their energy. I recommend including these events as well in your healing sessions to clear unresolved negative guilt harboring in the body.
I look forward to working with you on the most beautiful cleansing journey of your soul.
