What is your Nemesis?
A Nemesis is a creature a person creates by sending and developing negative thoughts of judgments and negative emotions.
In greek mythology, nemesis refers to a spirit of divine retribution against those who succumb to egotism.
We all know of or are the person who always seems to be waging a battle with something or someone in their life. Whether it be a job, a co-worker, family member, religion, other people’s lifestyles, politics, other people, etc.
Take a few seconds and write the name of the first person or thing that pops in your head whom you have negative thoughts. If you think of more- write them down.
We may not like certain situations or people all the time however, creating and developing an ‘anger battle’ with a nemesis is a whole other level of negativity. Have you ever heard someone declare, “ I just don’t like people!” People has just become one their nemesis.
I have to chuckle at that statement; because they just told the world they really don’t like themselves and they have become their own worst enemy!
Once a person develops a nemesis it is easy feed it through our ego or to create more . It is a coping mechanism that refracts the energy and keeps one from seeing themselves clearly and from growing spiritually. It is an energy road people become comfortable walking. They say love is blind, however, Nemeses are blinding…
Some people become completely encapsulated by their entourage of nemeses that they have no idea who they are without their battles. They think the world is supposed to be this constant battle with things and they alone with all their egotism can conquer the evil. The battle, literally, becomes evil against evil. Even if the other party bends, concedes- it is still not enough. Why? Because negativity is consuming, it is always hungry and you are driven to find more nemeses to create a larger more powerful road of rage. Rage makes one feel powerful and alive- it is addicting!
For example: Family can be a large nemesis for people. Do you or a sibling harbor ill feelings, anger and resentment about childhood? …And you are 40 plus years old? Then you have one big Nemesis that is well fed. Being angry at ‘how’ you were raised is a chronic nemesis that most people carry to their death.
Think about all the therapy people are involved in over childhood issues. The blame sticks squarely on the parents and scenarios and feelings are rehashed over and over with the therapist or friends or siblings. Parents are confronted and nothing but ill- will is created for both sides. In the family issues- most parents are consciously trying to be better parents than their parents. Imagine as a parent, be blind-sided with a
child’s accusations of abuse when you thought the whole time you as the parent were doing your best. The issues are aired out like dirty laundry- but no one can quite figure out how to clean the laundry.
But… There is a way to clean the laundry.
Forgiveness-
Movies have sold us this lie that villains know they are the bad guy and the good guy knows they are the good guy. In reality-No one thinks they are the bad guy. Remember Jekyll and Hyde? Each persona was unaware of the other. In the Batman movies-Did the Joker believe he was the bad guy, did Batman ever think he may have been the Joker’s villain?
To begin the healing process you need to understand and accept you maybe the villain to the opposing person! Accepting this role maybe hard. If you don’t quite get it-just go along with the exercise. Tell your ego to go away and start healing the negative emotions. Changing the paradigm of the villain creates a path for healing.
Which leads us back to the Forgiveness Exercise:
Three steps to healing with Forgiveness:
1.Truce. A halt of sending negativity. Allowing space to see yourself and the other person or situation from different angle. Neutrality. Just be for a while- accept what has happened in your truth and the opposing side’s truth.
2. The Ho’oponopono Hawaiian Prayer:
Picture your nemesis- in your mind, in a picture, in person, in spirit and say out loud:
I love you ( as another divine sentient being or challenge) (name of nemesis)
I am sorry– for xxx
Please Forgive Me
Thank you (saying thank you allows one to receive all the love available and fills the space by created by releasing the negativity.
3. Release the nemesis- let it go. Do something cathartic- like burning something that reminds you of your nemesis.
Depending on how deep and wide and numerous your nemeses may be- it might take time and you may have to repeat the Ho’ Oponopono prayer multiple times. It is a beautiful healing prayer that cannot be overused.
If you are not sure who to begin with- start with yourself. Using a mirror- look yourself straight in the eye. Call a truce, say the Ho’oponopono prayer and find all the healing love available to you.
Love and Light,
Cynthia Ritchie
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